Love is like a bird

If you love a bird let it free
If it comes back to you
It’s yours
Else forget about it!!

You know what... I have been telling this to my wife....So she did sincerely follow this and let me free as well.

But after some months she found me flying with a group of birds, she got cautioned and warned me she is going to shoot down me and the group of birds. So thought better come back to her!!!

Jokes apart, the lesson that I would like to share is

Love is like a bird -
You hold it tightly, it dies
You hold it lightly, it flies
You hold it nicely, it sits(shits) in your hands.

Judging Characters

I have been very transparent to my wife on all my past activities. But I do try to prevent certain present activities reaching her, as she might feel hurt about the same. Nevertheless I can’t avoid those activities as I love doing it.

My wife is aware of all of my past affairs by person and the events staged with them. I have a friend who is married, and I happened to date with his girlfriend to whom he got later married too. His girlfriend is now so sincere, though he is only virtually sincere to her.

I have not been a gentleman when it comes to ladies, and have a care free attitude about my image among closer circle. My friend and his wife started advising my wife to closely monitor me and keep checks wherever possible.

I did feel happy because my friend’s family is trying to prevent me in getting into unnecessary troubles in future. But it started becoming painful when, they started giving lecture about culture and added they can’t tolerate such things in life. The funniest part is my wife knows that his wife has been dating with me and this guy had been running after hookers even last week.

The lesson to be learnt here is while advising be sure that we judge ourselves, but not make our word a law to everybody. We must not judge rashly, nor pass judgment upon our brothers and sisters without any ground. We must not make the worst of people. If we fail to do that, we would be degrading ourselves if they know our facts.

Signs of Cheating Husband

Odd Behavior At Home:

Your partner or spouse…

• Appears distant, show a lack of interest or develop an unexplained aloofness.
• Is frequently tired or lack interest in the relationship.
• Wears cologne much more often than usual.
• Arrives home and heads straight into the shower/bath.
• Gets dressed up a little too well (to) for trips to the grocery or running some other kind of errand or menial task.
• Begins to speak more and more harshly to you, or are more sarcastic. Sometimes this is just an attempt to justify their cheating…or to give them an excuse to storm out of the room/house.
• Asks about your schedule more often than usual.
• Develops an increased focus on losing weight or pays more attention to their appearance.

Romance Tip-offs That Something's Wrong:

A cheating husband…

• Is no longer interested in sex, or he/she makes excuses for its infrequency.
• Starts to request kinky or other erotic sexual activity (behavior) that you've never done before, including watching porn
• Shows a "new talent" in the bedroom (that they might have learned from the individual with whom they've been cheating)
• Appears reluctant to kiss you, or show affection toward you.
• Criticizes you for showing him attention.
• Continues giving poor excuses for why he is not in the mood to make love.

Work-related Signs That He May Be Cheating:

Your partner or spouse…

• Work longer hours, more frequently…and keep you from viewing his paycheck/pay-stubs
• Changes his established routine with no apparent reason
• Begins discouraging you from calling him at work
• Is often "unavailable" when you try to call him at work.
• Returns calls long after you leave a message for him.
• Prefers to attend work functions (or any events) alone and tries to discourage you from attending.
• Takes more trips for business reasons and even refuses to let you drive him to the airport.

Telephone Mannerisms That Are Different:

Your partner or spouse…

• Receives "mysterious" phone calls.
• You get an increasing number of hang-ups or "wrong numbers" when you pick up the phone. Especially if the caller hangs up after hearing your voice and doesn't speak. Generally when a person dials a "wrong" number, they will at least ask, "Is Robert there?" before hanging up (though not always).
• Phone bills that show unexplained toll or long distance charges.
• Hurriedly picks up the phone to answer it before you do.
• Leaves the room to talk on the phone.
• Whispers while on the phone.
• Suddenly need a cell phone (or pager) and discourages you from looking at or using the phone or pager.
• Deletes numbers from "caller ID".
• Behaves differently or ends the telephone calls abruptly when you enter the room. Or appears to hang up quickly.

Paper Trails of a Cheating Husband:

• Credit card receipts for gifts you didn't receive.
• An increase in ATM withdrawals. Especially those from out-of-town (receipts bear a time/date stamp).
• Credit card receipts showing purchases from places unknown to you or that seem suspect
• He gets a separate P.O. Box.
• Unusual phone numbers appearing on the bill.
• The duration and time of the calls appear excessive.
• He is secretive about his cell phone bill.
• He starts to pay it himself.
• You notice business travel or other deductions for travel or other expenses that you were unaware of.

Automobile Related Signs That Something is Up:

• The passenger's seat is adjusted differently than you had left it.
• Finding suspicious items like phone numbers, receipts, lipstick, condoms or strange hairs in the vehicle.
• Keeping a change of clothes in the trunk.
• Unexplainable mileage or a lack of additional mileage. For example, if your husband states that he went out of town yet the odometer indicates that only a distance of 25 miles had been driven. Conversely, if he says that he's only been to the office that day, yet their odometer shows many more miles ad been driven, this too, may be a significant matter.

Internet Infidelity Warning Signs

• He warily guards access to his computer.
• He shuts down the computer as you walk into the room.
• He adds password protection his computer.
• Or he stays up to "work" on the computer long after you've gone to bed.
• He has unusual sites showing in the "browser history", or erases them after each late-night session.
• He deletes email message more frequently

Again, let me reiterate that these behaviors are only indicators of a cheating husband and are not absolutes.

Copyright 2007, Keith L. Walker, the founder and director of Discovery Services Private Investigations, in Springfield Massachusetts. He is a licensed private investigator with over 15 years of experience Contact him at 413-788-4988 or email him at: keith@discovery-services.net

Love Slaves

During our teenage and until early thirties most of us fall in love at least once in our life (I say once because humans are designed to fall in love more than once). In most cases it is infatuation. In infatuation our heart takes precedence than our mind. Most problems that arise in these relationships are due to possessiveness. Love has a great impact on our lifestyle and relationships as dictated by our partner. In this process we tend to lose our good friends, well wishers especially from the opposite sex. We are subjected to prove our love by losing many of our things which we had loved for years.

The purpose of this article is sharing my experience. I was in love with a girl where I had been addicted to call her at least once in every hour, SMS every 30 minutes, meet her daily. Though physically we were not together always, mentally she was always with me. If I don’t get a call or SMS I would not able to concentrate on any of my regular activities. To accommodate her call anytime I used be alone, avoiding my family members and other friends and keep waiting for her calls. Due to her I have lost my other friends of opposite sex in order to build confidence in her. She felt proud when I sacrificed for her.

But one fine day we had a problem and she stopped talking with me, she did not take my calls nor responded to my SMS. I was panicked, restless, unable to eat, sleep and lost interest in anything. Days passed by, I noticed that my effort to reach her were getting decreased as she was always avoiding my calls. I slowly started spending time with my family and my friends. I started realizing that I am now on my own and there was no external factor driving me. I realized what all I have missed just for one girl.

It was after one month she called me up, but now that I have realized the foolishness I had been committing, I was clear enough to say I will be as I am and if she is interested we have a relationship else asked her to find her way.

Now I am happy with my family, friends and no hurdles in my life’s vision and mission.

Guys and Gals even if you are in a relationship, pause for a moment and introspect if you are losing good things in your life just because of someone. Love should always complement to your growth if not that is not the right relationship.